It’s difficult, if not impossible, to get an objective view of your own bullshit.
I recall a previous acquaintance telling me, “James, I’m no longer reading, studying or going to events. I now know that all the answers that I need are inside.”
Okay.
Right.
While in the absolute sense it’s true that the answers you seek are in the development and awareness of what’s inside of you, having the acuity to observe yourself clearly beyond your own limitations is most often next to impossible.
You need help.
You can’t see that which you’re looking with.
You can’t see limitation when you’re looking through limitation.
Ponder that one please.
The door to success opens inward; and yet, we all need help to find the door.
We all need someone to call us on our own lack of awareness.
Bottom line?
If you’re truly committed to leveling your life up, and reaching your full potential, get a mindset coach.
Not a skills and tactics coach—a mindset coach.
Someone qualified to teach you how to think.
Period.
Change your thinking, you change your feelings, you change your actions, you change your results, you change your life.
Let me give you an example:
Tiger Woods skyrocketed to the top 3 in golf rankings after his professional debut in 1996 and stayed there continuously.
At the time of this writing he’s not even ranked in the top 500.
Tiger Woods needs help.
Mind you, he doesn’t need golf skills help. Tiger knows how to play golf.
Tiger knows how to swing, chip and putt as well if not better than most anyone in the world.
He’s been wise enough to have technique and skill coaches in his craft; and he’s had them since day one.
He began with his tough retired army officer father Earl Woods, who drove Tiger starting at the tender young age of two years old. In fact, reportedly Tiger showed an interest in golf starting at 6 months of age!
What’s that one thing, your One Thing, which you’ve been attracted to since a very early age? Have you found your unique genius?
Until you follow the call, you’ll never be truly happy or fulfilled.
Tiger heard the call and followed; and he’s been wise enough to continue employing golf coaches far beyond his father. Working with Butch Harmon, Hank Haney, and Sean Foley to name a few.
Practice is not just what you do to become great.
Practice is what you do when you’re already great to become even greater.
So what gives?
It’s obviously more than just strategy and skill. Tiger has these things in spades.
You may recall in 2013 Tiger was the topic of headlines in Huffington Post, The New York Times, and countless other media outlets as a “serial cheater.” His life and career began to spin out of control.
This is not something unique to powerful men. Just ask Bill Clinton, Kobe Bryant, Eliot Spitzer and others.
So how is it that some bounce back and others never do?
The jury is still out on Tiger.
I submit that the internal game always trumps the external game.
Your psychology drives your strategy.
How you think and feel always determine how you act.
Contrast how Michael Jordan approached his craft.
He said of his coach Dean Smith:
“He was my mentor, my teacher, my second father. He didn’t just coach me in basketball, he taught me about life. The love that came from him: The caring, the advice, the education, and the persistence and determination he had in pushing all his players….”
There was obviously much more going on between Michael and Dean than just how to dribble, jump and shoot.
Are you getting this?
The true coach and mentor will teach you how to think. He will challenge you on your own self-limitations.
He will love you enough to tell you the truth even when it’s uncomfortable.
The true coach/mentor is much more than just a goal achieving accountability partner.
Having a true coach and mentor takes courage. None of us likes to be challenged on how we show up and how we think and behave.
Yet we all need it.
That is if you’re committed to self-mastery and rising to your full potential.
What are you committed to?
Learn the two things that happens when you are fully committed to your Magnificent Obsession.
Your commitment to mastery and greatness must be greater than your commitment to your own comfort.
I’m always here to help if you need me.
Your move.
Stay Awake, Love Life and Be Epic!
James
